Is There Biblical Divorce for Domestic Abuse Women?

Have you heard these stupid and unsensitive answers from Pastors, Rabbis or Priests?

“women often bring abuse on themselves by refusing to submit”                                            “many women want to “rule over men.”                                                                                              “divorce is only permitted in cases of adultery or abandonment and never for abuse.”……. “women should be in submission.”

Many Pastors, Rabbis or Priests are never well prepared to answer to women who have been abuse constantly about what Elohim (God) says in his word (Bible or Torah) about them. The majority of these so called “Servants of God” have prefabricated ideas about marriage and divorce from books written from people just like them. These individuals in reality NEVER READ the text. And regretably most of them hate women, and their wives are probably been abused too.

Domestic violence is about power and control, and the low brain capacity of their partners to stop behaving like animals. Domestic violence can be express through physical (harsh treatment or sexual abuse), verbal and emotional violence. Any person of any age, gender, economic class, education level, or religion can be impacted by it.

What does Elohim says about Violence and sexual abuse:

     James 1:19,20 “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of Elohim“.

     Ephesians 5:3-5 “But fornication (including sexual abuse), and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Messiah and of Elohim

     Psalms 11:5YHWH trieth the righteous: but the wicked and him that loveth violence his soul hateth“.

     Zephaniah 1:9 “In the same day also will I punish all those that leap on the threshold, which fill their masters’ houses with violence and deceit“.

     Psalms 37:9 “For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon YHWH, they shall inherit the earth“.

     Malachi 2:14-17 “Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because YHWH hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For YHWH, the Elohim of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith YHWH of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. Ye have wearied YHWH with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of YHWH, and he delighteth in them (they lied and offend the Creator of the Universe); or, Where is the God of judgment? ”.

YHWH, Elohim of Israel HATES EVERY MAN WHO BLEMISH THE WIFE OF HIS YOUTH, the companion and the wife of thy covenant.  He will  punish all those that leap on the threshold, which fill their masters’ houses with violence and deceit. That means your husband or boyfriend. 

What does Elohim says about verbal and emocional abuse

Verbal abuse is probably the worst  weapon of an abuser. The ultimate goal is to establish dominance in a relationship.

     Luke 6:45 “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”

     James 3:6,9 “The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. . . . With the tongue we praise our Elohim and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in Elohim’s likeness”

     Matthew 5:21–22 “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ [an Aramaic term of contempt meaning “worthless, empty”] is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.


Colossians 3:19  “Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them“.

Genesis 2:24  “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh“.

Ephesians 5:25-29  “Husbands, love your wives, just as Messiah also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless.  So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Messiah also does the church

Ephesians 4:32  “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as Elohim in Messiah also has forgiven you“.

1 Peter 3:7  “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered“.

Matthew 20:26-28Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many”

Does your husband behave like this?

If not your husband is not a FOLLOWER OF YESHUA, NOR A BELIVER IN YHWH OUR ELOHIM, he has never CONVERTED to anything.

2 Timothy 3:1-8  “This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers,  disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,   Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of Elohim;   Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.  For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,  Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.  Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. ”


Today’s church has a responsabily to help the victims of domestic abuse and held the opressors responsables for their sinfull behavior.

1 Corinthians 7:15  “Yet if the unbelieving one (that is your husband, someone who does not believe in the Bible, Yeshua or the Creator of the Universe- YHWH) leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but Elohim has called us to peace”.   SO, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, YOUR OWN DEATH?

Please if your Church or congregation tells you to stay with your husband, knowing that he abuses and hurts you verbally and physically, then forget about it and do what Elohim calls you to do. Get away from him and your congregation. Your safety and that of your children (if you have any) is your primary goal right now. Contact your nearest Police Department and make a acomplain about his behavior, call a Domestic Violence Hotline, contact friends that can help and protect you (no mutual friends).

Always remember the Creator of the Universe loves and protects you all the way, you are his wonderfull daughter, his precious princess.

Psalms 22:24  “For he hath not despised nor abhorred the affliction of the afflicted; neither hath he hid his face from him; but when he cried unto him, He heard“.

Psalms 140:12  “I know that YHWH will maintain the cause of the afflicted, and the right of the poor“.

Psalms 72:14  “He shall redeem their soul from deceit and violence: and precious shall their blood be in his sight”.

Psalms 9:9  “YHWH also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble“.

Be blessed forever and find Shalom (eternal peace) soon.

Rabbi Yosef Ben Marques © March 6, 2017

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